Healing–and Leading–After Tragedy

I wrote a trio of articles for Christianity Today’s Gifted For Leadership. This is part of my story about my journey following my husband Rich’s death. Read the three articles in the series here: Part One Part Two Part Three

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Thanksgiving Selah

THE STRESS OF ANTICIPATION Thanksgiving is this week—the official kick-off to the Christmas season here in the US!  When I was a kid, my mom made an advent calendar that we still have.  Each day of December has a little pocket with a card inside that tells part of the Christmas story, and a small […]

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The “It” Factor

FRIENDS WHO TURN YOU GREEN Have you ever known someone who seemed to have an unfair advantage in ministry or life?  It seems like every door swings wide open with opportunity and success for them.  I have many friends like this, but one in particular that I envied.  She is a long-time friend from high school. […]

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Finding New Courage: 7 Ways To Be Brave

TRYING TO BE BRAVE WHEN FACING SCARY Have you ever wished you were braver?  Maybe you saw an outfit or haircut you liked and wished you had the courage to pull it off?  Or have you ever wished you had the guts to talk to the guy you liked without imploding?  Have you ever wished […]

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What’s My Calling and Related Questions

THE “WHAT IS MY CALLING QUIZ” Several years ago, I was having the same conversation I’ve had countless times, this time with a young woman I was mentoring on my team.  She was trying to navigate where she fit best.  She is one of those talented people that can carry a variety of different roles […]

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Offensive, Scandalous Grace

TRIPPING UP I am klutzy.  I trip over the tiniest variations in sidewalks, over cobblestones, up and down steps.  Usually I can awkwardly recover before I go all the way down, but it’s still embarrassing.  My sweet husband keeps count of the number of times I stumble when we are out together.  I think I […]

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Friends

FRIENDSHIP VS. FANSHIP “I just don’t fit in anywhere.  I feel alone most of the time, except with my husband.  I really don’t have any friends; I don’t have time to hang out with people as friends.  We don’t really talk to any other pastors.” I have met quite a few pastors and leaders who […]

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Mean Girls and Modesty

LAY OFF THE LADIES I still cringe a little bit inside, remembering.  I was in my mid-twenties and single again.  I’d dropped a few pounds, having lost my appetite for a while after my husband died.  I went into my office and found a note that had been slipped under the door.  As I opened […]

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Nehemiah’s Unconventional Princesses

Princesses are supposed to behave conventionally.  The classic princess story goes something like this.  A good, sweet girl falls on hard times, and then meets a rich, powerful boy who rescues her.  She lives the rest of her princess life in happily ever after—private luxury, ease, and privilege.  Every now and again, however, princesses don’t follow […]

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On Pain and Healing

WHEN RICH DIED I don’t often talk about my experiences when Rich, my first husband, died.  It has not been for a lack of dear, sweet people who ask me about it.  In the months and years after his passing, I have found myself tongue-tied again and again, retreating into private grief.  I felt awkward […]

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