What’s My Calling and Related Questions
THE “WHAT IS MY CALLING QUIZ” Several years ago, I was having the same conversation I’ve had countless times, this time with a young woman I was mentoring on my team. She was trying to navigate where she fit best. She is one of those talented people that can carry a variety of different roles […]
On Church and Change
NEW VERSUS NORMAL In the fourteen years that I helped put together church services for Family Christian Center, we did some crazy out-there stuff. Trying to describe to new friends what my role was like is almost comical. People listen to me talk about the animals and their excretions, the Thriller zombies, and shooting arrows into screens […]
On Pain and Healing
WHEN RICH DIED I don’t often talk about my experiences when Rich, my first husband, died. It has not been for a lack of dear, sweet people who ask me about it. In the months and years after his passing, I have found myself tongue-tied again and again, retreating into private grief. I felt awkward […]
The Purple Velvet Hammer
My husband is a boxing and MMA fan. This means that from time to time, to be a loving wife, I am subjected to a few hours of wincing and mild nausea. Every so often, there will be a pair of girls who jump into the cage and try to tear each other apart. It just feels awkward […]
When Things are Bananas, Focus on the Fruit
It’s inevitable. We all face seasons when life is less than peachy. Our leadership is producing nothing but lemons. All our pretty, pretty pleas for help must be lacking the cherry on top, because no one is responding. As hard as you try, you just can’t find that sweet spot; and all that hard work […]
Just For Girls, Just For Fun: A Look Into My Handbag
My top sixteen leadership-essential accessories that I keep with me in my handbag all the time: (My handbag is pretty big.) *left to right, top to bottom 1. Coverup, powder, mascara, lip color, eyeliner, and eyelash curler. You never know when you will need to stand in front of people and communicate. These things help […]
Instagram, Self-torture, Measuring Tape, and Pineapples
INSTAGRAM AND MENTAL SELF-MUTILATION The latest apps like Picflow or Video Story sew a bunch of photos together into one Instagram slide show—perfect for your year in review. My photo stream is full of them today. I can see the 2013 highlight reel of any number of friends in snapshots. It’s funny how fantastic this […]
When Mommying Isn’t the Best Way
Women have actually always been leading. Females may be relatively new to professional leadership environments, but leadership is nothing new to us. We’ve had to develop some serious leadership chops for parenting. Moms everywhere have had to learn how to lead. We have used a variety of leadership skills, both great techniques and some maybe-not-so-great […]
When He Isn’t As Into Church As She Is
My dad called me today about a sticky situation. One of the young women who leads in our church is having marriage trouble, and not the infidelity kind or the abuse kind, but more of a respect issue. She’s been growing in her leadership and her personal identity through the last ten years, went to […]